Being too sensitive is kind of a hallmark of my generation. We were purportedly raised without the moxy or gall to handle tough criticisms. While not all members of my generation bear this trademark of sensitivity, I certainly do. An affinity for sensitivity can be incredibly incapacitating and make interactions with others difficult. Whether sensitivity arises from the way you were raised, your attraction to introversion, or some other extraneous factor, there is a remedy for sensitivity. Regardless of the cause, or your generational station in this life, maybe you struggle with sensitivity too.
My struggle with sensitivity has become increasingly apparent over the last three years or so, as I have been told many times how difficult it is to share opinions or offer criticism to me. The apex of my battle with sensitivity ensued when I recently learned that a fiber in the complex tapestry of my personality type longs to be handled gently. That’s right. A single component of my personality lends to my desire to be regarded gently by my peers, friends, family members, and so on. Whether this personality trait was produced by my upbringing, the components of my DNA, or the influence of millennialism, matter not. What does matter, is my next move.
My next move is to become more aware of situations where the sensitivity center of my brain gets high-jacked and incapacitates reasoning. The best way to do this? Turn to the Father and ask him to deliver justice if you have been wronged. Rather than allowing emotions and subsequent reactions repeal the merit of a criticism or passing remark, you can allow yourself to offer insult to the Father, and dissect the merit in constructive sentiments and trash the injurious opinions.
Can remedying sensitivity really be that simple? Absolutely. Committing our offenses to be dealt with by our God involves conscious effort and the retraining of our brain’s natural tendency to react, but taking control of your reaction to criticisms pay dividends, my friends! When we decide not to allow our brain to trek down the slippery slope of offense and disdain for a wounding comment and, instead, commit the offense to the hands of our Father we can find incredible liberation. This act of letting go of offensive remarks (whether minor or significant in our scope) models the actions of our Savior. In all offenses, great or small, Jesus turned to His Father. And even as he hung on the cross, he called to His Father to forgive His accusers (Luke 23:34). How much more simple would life be if we committed our offensive first to our Heavenly Father? I am, of course, not suggesting that those of us who are sensitive roll over and forfeit the right to stand up for ourselves. I am simply suggesting that the ongoing battle to preserve our feelings requires us to relinquish control of the judgment of our accusers. Stated more simply: if you feel like you have been wronged (verbally, emotionally, etc.) allow the God of Justice to step in and take control rather than doling out resentment, offense, or any of the other common reactions to offensive speech or actions.
I don’t intend for this advice to cure your sensitivity overnight but I do believe that conscious effort and the willingness to remedy the precarious atmosphere of sensitivity will benefit you for a lifetime. As we enter the Christmas season, the greatest gift the world has ever received and His example of turning to the Father in all things is a tremendous blessing to you and your loved ones.
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